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CATCH A LOVER ADULT EDITION HOW TO

I was fortunate enough to talk to readers all around the world who have found their “best friends.” Except for the lucky few who had friends from childhood, those who had found adult friends had experiences remarkably similar to mine. It made me begin looking into the process of making friends. (They are going to tease me mercilessly for writing this post I am sure of it). Looking back, I realized we had gone through a courtship process of sorts. (My husband humored me by taking the only 2 person kayak) They love to dress up in crazy costumes, are willing to participate in my science experiments (usually), and put up with my weird antics (like asking to be blindfolded and seeing if I can recognize each of them by scent). I feel incredibly blessed to have found the most amazing group of friends after many, many years of awkward searching. I want to give you a different approach to making friends:

I believe that finding, building, and maintaining fulfilling friendships is one of the most important things we do in our lifetime. Money will come and go, and career success will fade in later years, but friends only make you richer.

We’re worried about being taken advantage of, so we pull away.īut here’s the thing.

We’re worried that someone might be secretly toxic, so we hold back.

We’re afraid of being rejected, so we don’t put ourselves out there.

So, we act like we’re too busy for friends, like we’re too old for play dates, like we don’t need anyone anyway. Why? Because it’s terrifying! They might say no. Let’s be honest, asking someone to be your friend sounds lame. Oftentimes, play and fun and relaxation take a backseat. As adults, we work, we have family responsibilities, and we have to pay bills. You have recess, school vacations, after school play dates, and camp. We no longer have new classes every semester like we did in college, an infinite number of high school clubs, or sports or summer camps to attend. If only it were that easy! For some reason, becoming adult friends gets much trickier. I wish I could walk up to someone nice, tell them something I liked and then ask them to be my friend. Yes! Let’s play with dinosaurs on trucks. I was waiting to board a plane at an airport the other day and overheard two little boys have this incredible interaction:

CATCH A LOVER ADULT EDITION HOW TO

Why is it so hard to make friends as an adult? Am I the only one who struggles with this?! I want to teach you how to make friends as an adult. Sometimes I cried before “having” to go away on school break.Īnd then… middle school. When the end of school bell rung, I would skip along the line of waiting mothers in their parked cars and high-five all of my friends as they pulled away. I would eat my sandwich at the blue table, eat my carrots at the green table, and eat dessert with the red table (where the best swapping was).Īt recess, it was agony trying to decide if I should play tag, do the monkey bars, or trade stickers at the big oak in the corner of the playground-often panting while trying to do all three. During lunch, I had a system to hang out with all of my friends. I frequently had three, yes THREE birthday parties in the same weekend. Kindergarten was “da bomb,” let me tell you.